Giving and receiving advice is something we all experience. Being in a relationship with another person naturally leads to asking and answering questions as we share our lives with one another. You might be in a position at work that involves training others. You could be a parent or grandparent to a little one. Your friend might seek you out your help with a dilemma. Your siblings, and even your parent, may ask for your assistance with a problem or advice about a relationship. Have you ever been on the receiving end of advice that left you feeling less than thankful that you'd even asked a question? Thoughtless words and how they are delivered can easily cause hurt and confusion that only adds to any personal conflict that already exists. Words can hurt more than help. We all eventually get to the place where we are on the giving end of advice. Answers can be hard to say. Your words have power. Your answers will be remembered and thought about by the person who is asking the question. Be conscious of how your words are delivered and think about how they are heard; it will impact how your words are received.
Choose your words, as well as the timbre of your voice, to fit the person and your surroundings. The same question might be answered differently with a child than with an adult. Something you'd say to your friend might be said differently to your sister or brother. Be deliberate in your choice of words so that your speak without condemning or invoking quilt. Be thoughtful, be kind, be loving and hold out hope in every situation. We all have opportunities in our lives to receive and offer advice to others. Make sure that what you say and how you say it, is filled with as much thought and loving kindness as you would want for yourself. 1 Timothy 1:8 MSG "It’s true that moral guidance and counsel need to be given, but the way you say it and to whom you say it are as important as what you say."