Has someone's comments about a particular situation ever sent you into a tail spin? The kind of angry where you get all twisted up. When mad doesn't begin to describe your feelings. When the angry face emoji doesn't even come close. I'm talking about real life circumstances. Up front and in person mad. Mad, angry, frustrated, or just plan 'pissed off' at someone.
When we find ourselves this angry, we need to take stock and ask ourselves a few questions. What is the real issue? What is it that I'm really mad about? Why am I so angry? Why do these words hurt?
Yes, when we are this angry it is usually a response to hurt. Hurt feelings cause pain and pain clouds our judgement. Cloudy judgment allows us to 'lose it' and we get angry. Cloudy judgment tell us that we can get away with our responses to hurt feelings. When we have cloudy judgment we give ourselves permission to take the path of selfishness and angst. We can get trigger happy with our own words in response. Before you take it that far STOP! Stop, before you say something you'll regret. Hurt anger can do that. Regret is by far worse than anger, by a long shot.
Hurt feelings. That is the real issue. Your feelings are hurt. How could they say that? How could they think that about me? How could they...whatever it is that takes you down that path of angry vengeful thoughts. Even if they apologize, you hold on to the anger. Even if you realize your interpretation was not at all their intention, you're still mad. What do you do when that anger continues to cloud every encounter with that person?
What's the cure for your anger and hurt feelings? They need to pay, right? They have to 'do something' to make up for causing you this pain. They have to...
Nope. Jesus says that we should forgive. Forgive anyone who offends you. Yep. Forgiveness. We have to make allowances for each other's faults and forgive. That's the cure for our anger. If you set your mind, your thoughts and your prayers on forgiving, on making allowances for other peoples faults, you might even surprise yourself. When you realize that old angst is gone, the hurts has vanished, and all the churning has stilled. When you realize forgiveness has taken its place. You might even be so surprised yourself, that you say 'Dang!' at the realization. When you realize that God is amazingly good at attitude adjustments.
The Lord is good to forgive us. We should follow His advice and example. We should forgive others too. Forgiveness is good for our soul. It's good for our mind. It's good for our body. Forgiveness is good for all of us. You and them.
Colossians 3:13 NLT
"Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others."