Our Dysfunctional Moments
1 John 3: 18-20 MSG
"My dear children, let’s not just talk about love; let’s practice real love. This is the only way we’ll know we’re living truly, living in God’s reality. It’s also the way to shut down debilitating self-criticism, even when there is something to it. For God is greater than our worried hearts and knows more about us than we do ourselves."
The last two sentences in this passage reverberated with me today.
1. Love is the way to shut down debilitating self-criticism, even when there is something to it.
2. For God is greater than our worried hearts and knows more about us than we do ourselves.
Wow! What an amazing God we serve. Read that again. God is showing us how to shut down (#snap) our debilitating self talk. Debilitating. That's what it really does, right? Negative self talk turns us into people who don't believe we can accomplish much. I was talking with someone today who was doing just that. Negative self talk. As we talked and discussed the negative comment, he was able to turn it around. The change was instantaneous. Total transformation.
Our negative thoughts, internal conversations and out loud conversations, can stop us in our tracks. 'Even when there's something to them'. That part is real life. Yes, maybe we did mess up, circumstances changed or the unknown happened. That doesn't have to be debilitating. It just means we get there a different way.
I was on a trip with a large group of people heading to a conference. We were talking and playing a word game as we traveled up I-95. We were laughing and having fun, when we suddenly realized we had overshot our exit by about 200 miles. There was frustration, anger and lots of self deprecating comments. Until we changed the conversation. We decided we were going to get there a different way. We pulled out a map (that's a paper GPS device) and went cross country through the backroads. 'Stay on pavement' became our motto and the scenic tour became an adventure. We changed our perspective. The debilitating frustration was temporary and fun ran throughout our entire trip. We pulled the FUN right out of that dysfunctional moment.
Our God is greater than our mess ups, our circumstances and all the worries our hearts carry. Our God knows more about us than we do ourselves. Our God can put the FUN back into every one of our dysfunctional moments.