As we continue to delve into humility here is another approach from Philippians. 'Make it as clear as you can to all you meet that you’re on their side, working with them and not against them.' It can be difficult to deal with difficult people. It's hard to find something that is positive that you can applaud. It's especially difficult when you don't have any faith in their ability to accomplish a task. Here are two examples: They are perpetually late in all aspects of their lives; work, responsibilities and just showing up on time. Take every opportunity to discuss time management and propose insights that can be integrated into their lives. Not in a 'you need to change yourself' way, but in a way that possibilities are proposed that they might be able to implement. Their words are argumentative and condescending to those around them. It never fails that they start talking badly about someone or something. How do you approach this person without being accused of being self righteous? Very carefully. It's a risk and it's hard. Open the discussion with a situation centered on a problem you've had with someone else. Ask for advice in dealing with someone who has these traits. Self reflection can be powerful. Situations like this can be difficult for everyone. What ever you do, whatever words you choose, make sure they are infused with the love of Jesus. Bad attitudes beget bad attitudes. Make sure you are wearing the proper garments of humility, kindness, compassion and an even temperament. Most importantly bring Jesus into the discussion. Celebrate God all day, everyday. Be upbeat. Joyfulness begets Joyfulness. Spread the love. Philippians 4: 4-5 MSG "Celebrate God all day, every day. I mean, revel in him! Make it as clear as you can to all you meet that you’re on their side, working with them and not against them. Help them see that the Master is about to arrive. He could show up any minute!"