I have identified a trait in myself that I'm not sure I like very much. I have a tendency to be critical in my opinions. I can pick apart situations that I am familiar with, better than a dog can pick apart a bone. I also have a tendency to appreciate the nuances and subtle ideas that can change perspective. These are polar opposites, or the positive and negative sides of expressing an opinion. For example, I encountered a subtle, yet thoughtful public Christmas display that was spectacular. It wasn't over the top in red and green or full of tinsel and glitter. It was subtle, yet evoked a nostalgic feeling that made the reason for the season a positive impact on the eye and heart. The sound portion of the display, on the other hand, needed work. The bass was muddying the waters with vibration and overwhelmed the music. Overall, the entire sound experience was much too loud to appreciate the intended meaning behind the musical story. Yikes! I can sure be a Scrooge. When we recognize a trait within ourselves that needs some work, we have to choose to go to work on it. That's where our ability to pick apart something can come in handy. <wink wink> Look at the positive aspects of our responses. Highlight their ability to make a tangible difference. Share as appropriate. That's relatively easy for us to do. Looking at the negative aspects, however, can challenge our own mind's abilities. We have to consider the impact of our negative responses. We may discover that we have a personal preference. A personal preference normally dictates that we should kept it to ourselves. Just because we have an opinion, doesn't mean we have to share it. Especially when our opinions are skewed towards the negative or skeptical. Make sure to check yourself before sharing a negative opinion. The result of speaking out of turn, or when unnecessary, is 'foot in mouth disease'. Check yourself before you wreck yourself. Proverbs 15:28 AMP "The heart of the righteous thinks carefully about how to answer [in a wise and appropriate and timely way], But the [babbling] mouth of the wicked pours out malevolent things." We all have opinions, but discussing them is optional. If you do choose to share your opinion, remember to choose your words thoughtfully and with care. Our words are powerful. Being honest doesn't have to be brutal. Honesty doesn't negate kindness. Being kind is always the right thing to do.