What do you do when faced with a morally ambiguous question?
A friend came to me for advice on an ongoing and confounding dilemma. My friend's personal relationships are being affected by a master manipulator. This person takes every opportunity to create havoc, discord and disharmony.
This manipulative person manages to get away with pretty much anything; taking advantage of people's generosity, taking advantage of the legal system and taking advantage of friends and family. My friend is in a position that this constant manipulation and its results causes conflict in their home life and bleeds over into other areas.
When you're on the inside of a relationship with a person who has manipulative tendencies, you wonder how they can get away with all the things they get away with. Can't anyone see what they're doing? The answer is a disturbing and confounding NO! They're good at their game. If even your tag light goes out on your car, you'll get pulled over, but a manipulator can dodge and buck the system without seemingly seeing any negative consequences.
How do you deal with a manipulative person in a relationship that can't be walked away from? How do you stand up for yourself, to what could effectively be called an adult bully, without moving into the enemy’s camp? My friend had thought about taking a stand that was morally ambiguous, BUT stopped short of moving into the wrong thing to do.
When we are in the middle of a situation we can easily tiptoe into the gray area between what is the right thing versus what is the wrong thing. That still small voice brought my friend out of the gray area and walked with them back into the light. The Holy Spirit is our guiding light, our internal compass, that helps us stay on track, guides us out of the gray areas, and even the darkness, that threatens our way of life. Our True North. Stay on course with True North and you will
overcome the traps of the world. Yes, as citizens of the world we can be affected by the world. Yes, there will be trials. Yes, there will be sorrows. BUT! We also know that Jesus said "I have overcome the world." Let Him take care of things. Stay on course. Head for True North.
John 16:33 NLT
I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.”