Matthew 5: 33 and 37 MSG
"And don’t say anything you don’t mean."
"Just say ‘yes’ and ‘no.’ When you manipulate words to get your own way, you go wrong."
Wow! I mean really, Wow! Have you ever heard anything so straight to the point? 'Don't say what you don't mean' and 'just say Yes and No.'. Straight to the heart of the matter. Let your no mean 'No' and your yes mean 'Yes'.
I read these verses and I know what they mean and yet it can be so hard to do sometimes. We can get tangled up in the yes, no and maybe so's in the realities of life.
We can mean well, but we easily get pulled into the traps. We don't want to hurt someone's feelings so we say yes, and then end up canceling by text. We don't respond to the email hoping that they'll take the hint. We say yes when we are so overtaxed on time we have no idea how we are going to make it work...but we shove that 'obligation' into our schedules anyway. Sometimes it's because we get caught thinking. We think we can, but in reality we really can't.
God doesn't want us to use lip service. God is telling us that we should make sure that our words have integrity. When we say yes, let it be because we are enthusiastic about what we are saying yes to doing. Our yes should mean that we will bring all that we've got to see it to completion and enjoy every minute. If you can't meet an obligation, fess up and say you can't get it done.
God is also saying that No is not a bad word. It's a hard one to say, but it's not a bad word. When we say no to someone or something it can be difficult, but it is better than the alternative of not following through, canceling or not showing up at all. Sorry, but I'm already booked; No, my calendar is full right now; No, I want to stay home tonight; It's a no for me; No I can't; or simply No. These are all easy to say statements that can serve us well. Be truthful. When we need to say no, say no and let it mean go. (Say no to the guilt too.)
When we say yes and don't follow through, it's as if we're telling the other person that they don't matter. The Golden Rule applies here. 'Treat others the way you want to be treated'.
Don't say what you don't mean. Don't be wishy washy. Don't be fake. Don't be that person who never follows through. Don't give empty promises.
Be honorable. Have integrity. Your words speak volumes about you.