We have all been in a position that called for us to confront or challenge a specific issue with another person. We all experience situations like these; be it with our spouse, our children, our friends or our co-workers. It happens to everyone, at one point or another in our lives, we have to deal with hard conversations.
My friend and I were talking about how we handle this type of conversation. Between the two of us, we have a discussion. We ask questions, we listen, we consider alternatives and we pray. We pray for wisdom and guidance, for encouragement and strength to make the right decision.
When we challenge a point of view or confront an issue, we must do so from a place of respect and responsibility; not from a sense of superiority. It’s not about being right, it’s about listening and responding well. Ask questions like; I don’t understand your point of view, or my perspective on this is different than yours, help me understand. Perhaps you might discuss your own perspective; have you ever considered things from this point of view, and share your thoughts. Don’t get mad or quit talking to one another all together. Choosing to do nothing is not the right answer either. When we allow fear to be our guide, we lose our way. Remember that we are all trying our best to understand our own lives and the path God has for us. We are supposed to support, encourage and pray for one another through our journeys.
Proverbs 27:17 NLT
“As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.”
Iron sharpens iron, means that we have the best intentions for one another. We don’t sharpen our knives in order to do harm, we sharpen our knives to make one another stronger. If we let our knives grow dull and unchecked, we would only become a pair of useless dull knives. We can disagree with someone else and still have a positive conversation. Good intentions and a positive attitude, grows stronger relationships. Praying for wisdom and guidance, strength and encouragement, is the best way to begin and end a tough conversation. God’s plans for us include being a positive influence on one another; sharp and strong, not dull and useless. Iron sharpening iron; is strength for one another.