Our intentions were good, but for some reason someone misunderstood or didn’t respond as expected to those intentions. After recently experiencing this type of misunderstanding, I know that they can have a negative impact on our own self perception. At first we may think that there isn’t a problem. The misunderstanding was corrected, we asked for and received forgiveness, and vice versa. We think that the issue is behind us. The problem starts when we began to internalize the misunderstanding itself. We suddenly realize that own ideals and motivations, which had been so clear at the time, made a negative impact or impression on someone else. Right or wrong, our internally preconceived notions fight against those external misunderstandings and misconceptions, and that can easily mix up our own thoughts. These types of internal misunderstandings may even, ultimately, affect our own self confidence.
Psalms 119:29 NLT
“Keep me from lying to myself; give me the privilege of knowing your instructions.”
Lying to ourselves or even a lack of self reflection is easy enough, but confronting that misconception takes some effort. Asking for forgiveness and forgiving as needed is imperative, and that includes forgiving ourselves too. God’s instructions help us make our way through the twists and turns found in the hall of mirrors we can erect in our minds when we get mixed up. The best way out of a bad habit of self defeating, self talk is found in the truths that Jesus tells us. Whenever we realize that our perception or perspective has become skewed, we cannot afford to not reach out to God for clarification.